Our herstory

When we first got together, my husband would buy me period presents and I hated it. When it came to my bleed, I’d been conditioned to feel grit and determination. I feared vulnerability and would push through, no matter how I felt. But then I became a mother. And the years of little to no self-care rampaged out of me like a wall of fury. Oh, the resentment! Oh, the period pain! (Hello first bleed back postpartum!). It was an incredibly challenging time, emotionally, mentally and physically. 

Then I met Lael Stone and we started doing workshops together. Lael would tell the story of how she realised she couldn’t keep being everything for everyone all cycle long. She told us how she shifted the story in her family from grit to honour by lighting a red candle on her mantlepiece at home during her bleed. That way, her whole family knew it was time to take care of their mother. 

I immediately requested a red candle for Mother’s Day. My hubby was all for it but couldn’t find one. Then three months later, for my birthday, I asked again but still no candle. What did come though? A shift back to the start of our relationship when my husband had brought love and care to my bleed week in the form of heat packs, chocolates and cuddles. This time, I was full of gratitude as I focused on taking and meeting my own needs. It also started a conversation with my own boys around what was happening in my body and what I needed. They soon learnt that just before and during my bleed I needed more rest, I was less willing to play rough games and more willing to receive their massages, play gently and read stories. It blew me away how creative my eldest became in thinking of new ways we could connect that served us both. 

Then one day I was receiving some body work from a woman named Prue and she was wearing a red bracelet to honour her bleed. I instantly fell in love with the idea and how a bracelet can be taken anywhere to symbolise to those outside of my home where I am in my cycle. I loved how it could spark conversations to connect with and support other women.

But I couldn’t find any such bracelet to buy. I then met the phenomenal Lucy Peach at a Women’s Wisdom Summit and it hit me hard and fast that I needed to honour my whole cycle, not just my bleed. I explored the idea with Lucy and told her my ideas for the bleeding bracelet while realising how important this product would be for everyone, not just me…

The Why Behind My Bleeding Days 

Why did we all need a way to honour our cycle? Because so much of my work through CFR is centred around birth trauma. Working with families for 17 years I have come to learn that so many of the stories and trauma we hold in our preconception to postpartum periods are from our girl and womanhood wounds. So many of us never met our power at our first bleed, the majority of us do not practise it during our bleeding years and I have watched those who’ve come before me not meet it in menopause. We’re the ultimate good girls, constant people pleasers who have been taught grit and determination, not rest and replenishment. And many of us feel shame and judgement around how we feel at different times of our cycle.

And so from this, My Bleeding Days was born. A brand designed to ensure we meet with our power and shift the cultural messages we have around our bodies from shame and grit to honour and power. In an attempt to omit period and birth trauma and abolish gender inequality. This is our why and we are so thrilled you are here for it!